drouner:
You live in GA. I would suggest collecting some silty sand from a lagoonal area along one of the coasts. I started my tank with heavily silted silica sand from eel grass beds in hood canal and shoal grass, manatee grass, and star grass grew well in that sand. The grade of this sand is finer than southdown. When I moved the tank last year I removed most of the hood canal sand and put in southdown. My shoal grass likes that sand as well. I went to southdown solely for the aesthetics: it's creamy white, the silica sand was grey.
On an older thread I also saw were some recommended SeaChem's Onyx
I think Seachem is selling black dolomite under a couple of trade names that are more palatable to consumers than just "black dolomite". "Grey Coast" is a finer grade, Onyx more like gravel, I think. The chemical content of Grey Coast is very high in magnesium and iron compared to a typical aragonite. I would guess a little Mg and Fe would become availiable if gravel is dissolving in the lower pH regions of the bed. I never used either. I don't know of any other reason to use Onyx except that you like the look of a dark substrate, which is a plenty good reason.
As far as buying different grades of gravels and then mixing them. Generally, over time small pieces will migrate down and larger pieces move toward the surface. You can seperate layers with window screen and I did this once but don't think that it accomplished anything positive as far as helping grass grow.
My opinion is that its better to stick with finer grades for grass unless you are doing a Jaubert. As far as the pricey hobby sand - I have yet to buy any. The silica came home fresh in a cooler, the aragonite was given away by a reefer who had succumbed to phosphate phobia. I'm trying a Jaubert in tank2 and for that one I will be spending for a graded gravel.
Sarah: I picked up a slightly used 140G Oceanic with overflows and Oceanic stand for $600, less than 1/2 what it would have cost me new - I like to think its a Karma thing!
It came with a 40G acrylic sump thats perfect for my second trial of a stationary alga scrubber. Tank2 appears much more distinctly on the event horizon now!