How many conductors does a standard 1/8" stereo headphone jack have? To use One Wire in parasite mode, you need two (data and GND). To use it in powered mode, you need three (power, GND, and data). I like powered mode, since it makes for a simpler implementation IMHO, and some One Wire devices require it - I'd hate to lock in to parasite mode and then have issues down the road.
Regarding the Ethernet, I had zero progress. I used some common sketches that initialize the chip, give it an IP address, and configure it to respond to pings. These sketches typically include code to blink the status lights in various patterns as the chip is powered on, initialized, etc. I had no blinking. I confirmed via 'scope and multimeter that the AVR was trying to communicate to the ENC chip via SPI, but the ENC never responded and never seemed to boot up.
The software is basically known-good. So, there could be some subtle problem with the hardware, or I could have borked my chip somehow. I would suggest socketing the chip so you don't risk frying it while soldering, and so you can swap it out later on if need be.