Well, after carefully studying the flow on both the Mag9.5 and 12, the Mag9.5 puts out .1 gpm more than the Mag12...atleast by my watch and the estimation on the 1 gallon bucket.
That is near impossible, but you belive your Mag 12 is not damaged so... then you stated twice that the Mag12 is cavitating, I suspect that what is going on it that your intake is too restrictive for the flow that the Mag12 is trying to accomplish, creating negative pressure within the impeller chamber, pulling dissolved gasses out the water and impeding the flow, creating less flow for more work.
If you want to use the Mag 12 as your return, increase the intake size and I think it would work. Detail your return plumbing and we can help more on that issue.
Personally, I would not do the Seios but instead do the closed loop, it just makes more sense...unless you have space restrictions like I will. I would prefer the lower pump turnover thru the sump and higher turnover in circulation. Lower turnover over the weir and thru the sump (and off to grandma's house it goes
) will make your skimmer work more efficeintly; Anthony Calfo discusses this in detail.
So I recommend the Mag9 on return and Mag12 on closed loop, no Seios.
Side note, I personally can not get past that the company that makes Sieos also makes Rio's and that connection in itself is a reason that I will never put Sieos in my tank, just cant give them my money.
Chris