As another update, nemoboy1 was cracking eggs of wisdom all over this thread, because the female decided it wasn't going t owork for her and chased the little one into the overflow a few times over until I just put him back in the main tank.
Now I'm at a loss on what to do. I've had the female for a year and she hosts a frogspawn, hammer and xenia which looks great, but she'll probably either kill the other one over time or they'll both turn female. I'm on the fence about trading the female for another small platinum and pairing it with the smaller one to see how it goes... Any suggestions? At this point I'm pretty sure they're not going to get along no matter how much time passes.