as i have lived in various parts of the country in my younger years (school etc)...
i have observed some things that seem to be 'normal'...
- 'almost' all housing along the west coast and southeast/northeast coast is disproportionally higher (much higher) than the rest of the country...barring of course larger metropoliton areas in the midwest like chicago and select 'elite' communities like big sky in montana.
- high priced real estate has a reason...people intentionally choose to live here for whatever reasons...climate, ammenities, political climate etc. each has their own plus and minuses.
i am not an east coast person so i never lived there. i have visited several times but i never called it home so i am not qualified to have an opinion in this area.
the midwest was where most of my upper education occured. great place to raise a family with better 'values' (subjective) but on a whole...it was hard for those who lived there all their lives to expand their world.
the pacific nothwest was where i was born and raised. a very liberal place (in general) to live imo. i dont know if every university was like my undergrad one but the pacific northwest one i attended almost always had some protest rally going on (nuclear, save the trees, dolphins, stop logging etc). i just wanted to go to school...not endlessly sign my name on some petition about saving some new worm that is indigenous to an old growth forest.
so, it comes down to southern california...
i know a lot of people will not agree with me but southern california is actually the most balanced and sane place i have ever lived. there is a balance of conservative and liberal. again, i dont expect a lot of people to agree with me on that one as well.
yes, there are problems here but there were 'problems' with every place i lived. nowhere is 'perfect'. what do i like about socal? the weather, the diversity, the food, the amount of surrounding recreation facilities, mountains/oceans moments away and the list goes on. i really cant think of any other place in the us with what we have here.
yes, housing is through the roof (hahaha) and energy costs are outrageous but how many of us really HEAT our homes like those poor guys in northwest, midwest and northeast?
the rest of the nation thinks we have nothing but earthquakes and while they do occur, we dont have earthquake season like florida et al does with hurricanes. funny that not a whole lot of people mention that the pacific northwest in recent history had a huge earthquake and is still waiting for the really BIG one!
with every area...there will be good places to live and lesser areas. the best thing is, if it were me, is to check out the area's/cities demographics (pleasantly linked ala me!

) and then contact a local real estate agent to start asking questions as you become more serious.
if i were moving to a new area and asking the 'locals', chances are, while important, you may get a biased response and not a full representation of the area. ask around for a good real estate agent who you feel comfortable with and ask questions (i did this each time even though i just rented. if you are polite, chances are good that someone will take a few minutes and help you out).
just my 2 cents and that is exactly how much it is worth.