All you really need is the spectra select membrane. I would wait 6 months (when you need to change out your prefilters anyways) and then order prefilters and DI resin from twopartsolution and a spectraselect membrane from spectrapure. Twopartsolution.com sells bulk .5 um carbon blocks and they will suit you fine. The spectra di resin is great but you don't need to spend the money on that yet. Adding their membrane alone will make your DI resin last for seemingly ever. I go through a single replacement DI cartridge per year because I get 2 tds out of the spectra membrane. I have virtually the same input water as you since I am just a bit further south in SoCal. Here is what I would do and in the order I would do it.
1. Contact Buckeye and tell them you were hoping for a better rejection rate. See what they say. If they send you a new membrane and it's not what you were hoping for then get the spectra membrane later.
2. Contact Dow and see if they can do anything for you.
3. In six months when you order new prefilters, just get two .5um carbon blocks and install those instead of GAC. The carbon blocks will be about the exact same price so this won't cost you anymore. You can even buy them in bulk at twopartsolution.com . You can also buy DI resin from them in bulk.
4. At this time, if you still aren't happy with your membrane you can order the spectra select one. This will really be the only expense that we couldn't really predict.
You do not NEED to reconfigure your unit. It was just a recommendation but you will be fine with it just how it's configured. Also, to conserve carbon blocks you can simply rotate the 3rd stage one to stage 2, throw out the stage 2 cartridge, and put a new block in stage three. This will give you more than enough protection against chloramines and still only have you purchasing a single carbon block every six months. The new membrane (and DI resin you may use this 6 month period) is the only unforeseen expense. Sorry that happened. It's particularly disappointing because you live in a high TDS area.