Wow your finger looks painful. Hope it isn't hurting you too bad. I absolutely love that tuned drain system. It is working really well on my tank. The tank drain and sump end of the drain are completely silent and no bubbles. I had to play with the relative heights of the two drains also.
Here's how mine is setup fwiw... I put the emergency drain just about a half inch lower than the overflow walls. I tested it several times where I completely closed off the main drain with the gate valve, and the emergency drain handles the flow. But it is a little scary becuase that emergency drain seems sort of high up in the overflow, so the tank LOOKS like it is going to flood since the overflow chamber is nearly under water. Anyway, it does work fine even if it looks scary.
I generally keep the system tuned so that the water is very close to the top of the emergency tube, since when the water is higher up it reduces the noise of the water entering the overflow chamber.
So then for the height of the main drain, I wanted mine somewhat high so that it would reduce the water going to the sump when the return pumpt shuts down. My sump volume is somewhat limited. If I had a lot of extra sump volume available, I probably would have made the main drain a little lower. But it is working fine as is. I haven't had any vortex problems or anything, but part of that is because I have a DIY screen over it.