I had a mated pair of spotteds. The male was bigger than the female, but I also had him longer (i.e. he could have been older, although the female never did grow at the rate of the male.) The spotted males do not develop the elaborate extended dorsal that the mandarin species shown above gets -- their first dorsal fin is longer than the subsequent (and that of the female's), it just doesn't grow as long as the other species.
Although my pair did spend time together and did mate (and I agree that simulating a dawn and dusk period, along with moonlight, helps to recreate the times when these fish would naturally be pairing and mating), the female could be quite nasty towards the male. At times she would nip and peck at him. She was the only fish in the tank that ever gave the male mandarin a second look; he could basically do whatever he wanted in the tank.