This is a tough one, as it is a "convoluted" debate starter. You have read some things, but not what should have been read: that being the first post from 2004. Granted, the original post was not well written, and there was no documentation presented, to speak of, by page 12 or 13 the thread had turned into a running gun battle between some rather uninformed folks and a couple with the background to understand the dynamics of drain systems, and overall system design—that does not present significant risk for equipment/home damage and loss of life in the tank, when running a restricted drain line at the borderline of its capacity.
Without getting too deep into it, the first comment is wrong. The design calls for a "restricted drainline" (a siphon) and a DRY emergency, with the dry emergency being "empty" (no water in it) under normal running conditions, and only flowing water in the case of a "problem" with the main drain line. These "problems" could be due to a myraid of variables, such as barometric pressure, variations in pump output, a snail stuck in the line, a fish, or increased friction loss due to algea/slime/sponge/(what have you) growth inside the drain line.
The herbie, as it has been called, is not inherently stable, and not able to cope well with barometric pressure changes, and variations in pump output which can occur daily sometimes more, sometimes less often. Friction loss changes being more of an "over time" thing. Within a month, due to this issue, the design was convoluted by short circuiting the fail safety feature of the DRY emergency, with the "trickle" down the dry emergency. Of course logic tells us that this raises the failure probability of the dry emergency to that of the siphon. The bottom line is never run a restricted drain line, of which the capacity cannot rise (due to the restriction) without a dry emergency backup, flowing water only if there is a problem with the main siphon.
The trickle of flow in the dry emergency is certainly a popular way to run this system, after all it is the first thing you mentioned. It is perhaps "religiously" defended. But don't confuse popular—with good design. Popular is based (to make a loose quote) on convenience, cost, appearance and much of the time, a lack of knowledge of a better way, and in some cases the RIGHT way to do something. Good design takes a distant back seat. Of course, a drain system can be run any way someone wants to run it.
I cannot say the second part is wrong, becasue it isn't. Herbie's implementation used the 1" bulkhead for the siphon, and the 3/4" bulkhead (with 1" pipe) as the backup. A better implementation, has the 3/4" bulkhead as the siphon (lower flow capacity) and the 1" bulkhead as the DRY emergency backup.(higher flow capacity.)