tip... try at your own risk....
I agree with the notion that Xenia loves extra Nitrates/Phosphates or "dirty water." If you can't grow Xenia at all, my last ditch effort suggestion if you must have Xenia or commit Seppuku (don't flame me please, only a suggestion)... try creating a nitrate factory by adding a very small canister filter filled with live rock rubble or that porus Ehiem rock or Fluval bacteria medium. Only fill the canister with rock or bacteria medium. As the canister matures, it will be a very efficient nitrite reducer and nitrate factory (aka food factory) for your Xenia. Now here is the tricky part. Try to balance out the nitrates by adding a ton of chaeto in a refugium and ensure you run a skimmer as well. In summary, the canister is your constant 24/7 food supply and the rest of your system compensates for the food factory. Now acros and other hard corals will probably suffer, I only reccomend this for softy tanks [or filter feeder softies like Xenia] as a "at wits end" strategy.
also, point the output nozzle at the Xenia or close proximity. Dose Iodine and ensure Xenia has random water movement by wavemaker means.