karim, respectfully, I believe your over thinking this in all aspects of your design including the size of your surge tank. I am all for out of box thinking but you reach a point that over complicating what you're trying to accomplish will only cause you anguish down the road. I think kcress was trying to allude to that in the post in his thread.
From kcress- My consul would be this. If you aren't into meticulous mechanical design and development then you shouldn't proceed with your outlined plan here. Instead you should work with standard products as they're a good bang for the buck and can be replaced when they wear out.
So let's try to take a K.I.S.S approach to this and see what we come up with. Ultimately it is your tank so you can do what you want but trust me, you want to enjoy the tank itself without constantly tinkering with the mechanical aspects of it (unless that's what you like about keeping a reef tank, of course). But maybe this is an alternate plan you could think about.
First, let's address the size of your surge. I have found a surge that's sized at 10% of the display volume is not only adequate but likely the most preferred from a usefulness standpoint without completely overwhelming the overflow. Your tank is planned at 380 gals. That gives us a 38 gal surge. Now, you said you wanted to do some randomization with it and a "double surge" at times. Ok, let's go with that and do 76 gals of total surge. Sticking with the Rubbermaid stock tank you can go with the 100 gal model and let it fill no more than 90 gals so you still have water left in the tank if you surge a full 79 gals (keeping the surge bubble less). This reduces that weight bearing load you have too. TRUST ME, surging 79 gals in that tank is going to be awesome. Your overflow may have problems keeping up.
Second, let's talk about how you're going to actuate your surge. Forget about the toilet bowl style seal. kcress is 100% right on that. It's going to thud when it closes and it's going to drive you crazy. I did a modified Borneman surge tank on my 150 gal and used a toilet flapper valve which was similar to what you have pictured and it always made a thump when it closed. And I could never totally eliminate air bubbles. I think you will risk inducing a vortex that will suck in air with that valve. I would recommend using a tried and true 2" electrically actuated ball valve. I don't think you need to go bigger than 2". I've actually reduced my 2" to 1.5" right at the outflow to increase velocity. It had minimal impact on the actual drain time of the surge but it really helped push the water across the tank. I have an Asahi valve with a 5 second run time. That's plenty fast and I have no water hammer. Hayward makes a valve with a 2 second run time if you think you need something faster. There is a hum when the valve actuates but no "flushing" sound or thud of a flapper closing. And NO bubbles.
Third, the control. Admittedly I'm out of my element here but I'm sure others smarter than me can help you out with that. That being said I think you could still do some sort of randomization or at least timer control with 555 timers, relays, etc. Or maybe even Arduino. Again, I don't know much about that so I can't guide you here but I would guess you could use one of those solutions with the actuated ball valves (my valve uses a relay with a timer built in). One thing you will need to pay attention to though is duty cycle so you don't burn out your valves.
I hope that helps and gives you an alternative to consider.
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