Yup I agree helianthus for sure.
If you are up for a bit of work, order a tan one from Live Aquaria. Be sure to have Cipro at hand as it will almost for sure need treatment (any gig you buy from Petco likely too)
I went that route and so far mine is doing good after treatment.
I have had no luck with LA's gigs.
I've ordered $300 specimens from DD and $60 specimens from LA.
So far the best gig I've received was from saltwaterfish.com and it arrived in a bag with no water.
It's mouth was tight from the get go. I did treat it 6 days with Cipro after I had it for about 4 weeks.
I think it was fine, but it's behavior made me nervous. I just moved it to my display after 8 weeks or so in isolation.
I'm hoping for the best.
Also can't believe none of the ones you got from DD never lived, you spent sooooo much time and effort with those things.
I wouldn't buy anemones from DD - their prices are way too high. Another reason is that they treat with cipro and I'm not sure they do it right. If the anemone gets sick again after shipping to you (which is likely) the bacteria (or whatever else causes the anemone disease) may have become tolerant to cipro and your own treatment will fail.
The gig I got from LA responded well to my cipro treatment and does so far good. I still have it in a 10g tank but the new tank for it should be ready shortly. The only issue with this gig is that it expelled most of its Zooxanthellae and despite some progress it still hasn't fully colored up again.