Its not that I'm not taking the advice of other people here, I am (hence adding more sand, upgrading lights...). I guess what I'm saying is that I don't care THAT much about the anemone... I want a ray tank. If I can keep a healthy ray that's happy and keep the LTA for my clown, then great. If the LTA dies, so be it, I won't buy another one.
I think this paragraph is going to hit a nerve, and I think this statement:
That's a pretty irresponsible and crappy thing to do to an animal...
... pretty much sums up why.
The reaction you are getting from members to your threads have been very mild and this is probably because members don't want their posts removed for telling you how they
really feel. You can't keep the anemone alive
and keep a ray at the same time. It won't and can't happen. Putting the animal's welfare aside, you may think $20 (woo hoo) isn't much but it is still $20 you will have in your pocket at the end of the day. You won't have the anemone.
There are certain things you need to bear in mind about LTAs and some of this has already been mentioned.
1) It needs a fairly deep sand bed. Todd recommends 3" and I've never fully agreed with this. I think they need a minimum of 4" for small anemones and deeper as the anemone grows. But the point is moot because your sand still isn't the minimum 3" Todd suggested.
2) The anemone must be on the sand bed. There is no exception. If it is not on the sand, there is something either wrong with its environment or with the animal. It is trying to survive and this is why it is acting abnormally. It's akin to finding a moose in the city or a cheetah hunting African villagers. It's not normal but the animal is trying to survive. The anemone might be looking for more light or more air; I don't know.
3) I'll get some resistance for this, but I've stated it before: anemones should be the focus of the tank. Everything you put into the tank should be secondary to the anemone. This means choosing lighting for the anemone, tankmates for the anemone (both anemone-safe and safe from the anemone), water flow/parameters, etc. The anemone should never be that extra decoration you add to the tank, like an impulse coral, etc. If you do it the other way around, you will either kill the anemone or trade it away when you find it boring. And frankly, the anemone you have isn't that exciting in the first place. Even I would probably trade it away if I found a nicer one.
Now here comes the Kumbaya stuff: Every animal you put in the tank deserves respect and shouldn't be treated frivolously. If your reason for keeping the anemone was because you wanted some angelfish to eat it, it would be distasteful but understandable (to a very small degree), but you really don't have a reason to keep it. You just want to watch it die, to prove a point, or because you are too lazy to return it. What's even more distasteful is that you have a plan for your tank for an animal(s) that is incompatible with the anemone, yet you still don't want to part with the anemone. And to add even more confusion, the requirements of this desired animal(s) are totally different from the anemone.
So again,
why are you keeping this anemone?