Mhucasey's SPS obsession

Sorry to hear about your mother Matt, I've had a few deaths in my family very recently myself and it's not easy at all. I can't imagine one of my parents dying, hang in there.
 
My condolences, Matt.
I also know how hard this illness is.
In the past 2 months my wife and father-in-law was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and leukemia respectively.
Life does not always gives you peaches..
 
Very sorry Matt. I lost my father to cancer so I can sort of relate to your loss. Hang in there buddy.
 
Thanks everyone for the support and well wishes. It's been a tough few months that started with and accidental overdose of Flourine that burned/killed a bunch of corals, then with the family issues I had to leave the tank alone for extended periods with only fish feeding and automated NP Pro additions.

It did pretty well during that time but following my Mom passing I just hadn't felt much drive to focus on the tank like I should and lost a rash of corals - some were looking burned and others STNd. It looks like my inattention allowed the flatworms to proliferate a bit so I'm back on dipping affected colonies and I pulled the zeolite/carbon/phosphate minus filter altogether because of the burning. Pulling the filter seems to have stabilized the tank.

So right now I'm only dosing NP Pro daily, coral A, Vitality, Lugol's and Micro E every other day at 2/3 dose. Before last week, dosing of anything other than NP Pro had been on hold for over a month. Still waiting on getting some yellow coris wrasses from my LFS but no new corals for several months now.
 
Matt, I'm glad to hear from you and sorry about the whole mess!
It's been just over a year since my dad passed and it's still something that is tough to really think about.
I can imagine you are still totally distracted and emotional and really there is nothing that can make that go away except the passing of time. And that only helps, somewhat.
The passing of parents really puts into laser focus the idea that we are all getting on and that can open up a whole other can of worms...
I found my tank and my family a welcome, necessary distraction.. I sincerely hope you get your tank back on track so that you can get some satisfaction and joy from it, again.
And I also sincerely hope that you are coping as best as you can with your loss, remembering her and keeping in mind that she made you what you are and she is in everything do, in life.
Hope to see you back soon, Matt!
 
Hi Matt, I am glad to hear from you again. As Matt said distraction of mind is very important to fill the emotional vacuum though everyone is different and finds a different way to deal with personal issues. I kept working on my nano tank to keep my mind distracted when my younger sister passed nearly seven years ago. I kinda felt really bad because I felt that I should not have been doing what I was doing, but my tank helped me a great deal.

Best wishes, Bülent
 
Being back at work with only RC to read I decided to read your thread, it was very impressive and informative and then it got very sad right at the end. Sorry to hear about your mom, it's hard losing a parent.
 
Matt,
I will always appreciate you, for more reasons than most know ;) Not only a great guy, but one of the most intellectual fellas out there on the boards. I am so sorry to hear about the loss you have encountered, reef, and life related. I hope to see that inspirational guy re-emerge with the stuff that makes things tick around here, we all truly miss you :( Well wishes to you and your best ones my friend :)
 
Man I love your tank, I've been crazy busy with work and my tank has went to ****. I'd like to pick your brain. I like your setup. Sorry about your mom. There's nothing you can say but cherish everyday with your love ones you never know what tomorrow will bring good or bad.
 
Matt,

I've been a quiet reader on your thread. First I want to says thanks for that nudge a while ago to get a school of 6 Blue Green Chromis. Simply love them and they are getting along very well contrary to other folks advice.

I'm speaking up since I wish to offer my sincerest condolences. I just lost my Aunt, Brother in Law and Dad this last May. Brother In Law (Age 45) to cancer. Dad to Alzheimer's (Age 87).

I feel for the pain you must have felt seeing your mom suffer. It must be a tough time for you right now. It does take time to heal, but you will. Cherishing those that are around is the best thing going forward. Hobbies are a good distraction.

God bless, stay strong. Wally.
 
sad to read that matt:(
I'm sure when all that sadness become a little less or easier to deal with,your tank will become as amazing as it was before.
With all this,you could have given up but you didn't and that makes me happy:beer:
 
Thanks everyone, I appreciate the positive vibes and wishes. I had a rough time around the time of my Mom's passing and worrying about my Dad who is now alone and on the other side of the country. I am doing ok now, I have passed by the sadness and that isn't dominating my life.

My issue lately is that there were several corals lost and not much to do with the tank other than feed the fish, so I just haven't been focused too much on the tank. I'm kind of bummed that MACNA is this weekend here in town and I will be staying away because I don't want to add corals to the tank until I am 100% confident that the environment is right for them. I don't have any intention of taking the tank down, so don't worry about that.

I've been enjoying spending time with my wife and family, reading(I've completed 90books so far this year), and hanging with the pups.

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I did make a small change to the filtration - I made some little baskets from gutter guard and put the Matrix and Siporax in them:

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And then plumbed a glass tank into a slow flow loop next to the sump so now the siporax gets slow, even flow past it and it should kick in for denitrification in a couple more months:

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The tank looks pretty good overall, some corals are growing fast while others are a bit stagnant:

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I just clean the glass and drain the skimmer every few days. I dose every other day with AF Coral A, Coral V, and Micro E as well as Lugol's. Sometimes I miss the dosing.
 
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