Ms Manners would like to suggest...

[Sk8r]

...that when you receive an answer that is not quite the one you wanted, or seems a little off topic from your question, the appropriate response is not "You blithering idiot, I asked...[fill in blank]," but rather, "Thank you very much, but I'm trying to avoid that. Could you suggest a solution somewhat short of [fill in calamity.]" Or: "Is there any other way that doesn't involve [what you don't want]?"

It just makes everybody who's thinking about responding to you feel more inclined to take the time and effort.

Thank you.

 

[klwheat]

manners? what are these manners you speak of?! hahahahahaha

 

[thegrun]

Sk8r, perhaps you could start a whole new forum here on RC "Questions for Ms. Manners"! The rest of us could simply refer questionable responses to your forum, a big win for us although I wouldn't want your new job!

 

[Damon.Webb22]

How dare you! You blathering, predisposed, ostentatious, assuming little bugger even for ONE second think you can tell me to be nice! I OBJECT LOUDLY AND VEHEMENTLY TO THAT!!!!

Ok not really

 

[SteviesReef]

SK8R makes and excellent point. I am seeing increasingly larger numbers of rude responses and to posts and answers that seem designed to belittle the asker.

 

[Sk8r]

Designed to belittle the asker, but also guaranteed to get adverse attention from everybody else---thus guaranteeing that, wherever they go thereafter, they LACK input from rational, reasonable people who possibly have the right answer. If user Iwannabeajerk has been, yes, a jerk, why should anyone waste time answering him?

It's like leather corals in a marine tank: they spit, and the result comes right back through the circulation to them...

It's such a pleasure to deal with most people in this hobby. And if ever you feel that you have been on the receiving end of a rude answer, don't quote it, don't respond to it---it only paints you with the same brush once the mods get to the scene. See those little red-rimmed triangles under everybody's avatars?

If you push the red triangle on the offender's avatar INSIDE the offending post, said nasty post will ricochet right to the halls of the mods, and bring attention to the problem. Far better for you to avail yourself of our services. Just sayin'.

 

[KeepNitReel]

This is indeed the rudest forum that I visit.
Is also frustrating to ask a question about, lets just say, building a stand and get a response like "what's your nitrate levels" :banghead:

 

[Cymonous]

What's your Nitrate Levels KeepN'? HUH? HuH? HUH?!

 

[SandyB]

Thank you Sk8r, no one has been ugly to me and I know I've asked some really dumb questions. However I used to be a mod on another board (that had nothing to do with fish) and those iwannabeajerk people are a lot of trouble.

 

[KeepNitReel]

What's your Nitrate Levels KeepN'? HUH? HuH? HUH?!

My nitrate levels stay around 0ppm when my stand is painted black but when I changed the paint color to espresso, they went up around 10ppm. If I shim the left side of the stand, do you think the ammonia will spike?

 

[Nina51]

srsly folks, if you wanna be rude, please visit the RC lounge. the lounge loves rudeness, right sk8r?

 

[billdogg]

Be Polite? What an (unfortunately) novel thought. The answers I give to others questions are the result of nearly 30 years of marine aquaria keeping. I post answers that have worked for me. I cannot help it if it is not the answer you were looking for.

I have lost track of the number of times I have considered leaving this forum after disrespectful, even hateful, responses back. It has only been my rather thick skin (and, I'll admit, skull) that has kept me coming back.

 

[Railcar79]

I had someone ask what I had for lighting, and my levels yesterday, I dont even have water in the tank. I was asking about acid dipping rock to reduce phosphates.

 

[gone fishin]

A little courtesy does go a long way. Of late I have been very selective to what threads I post to.

 

[Railcar79]

Although, I do admit I do enjoy the guilty pleasure of trolling the Tanked TV show threads. I never knew there were so many expert Biologists and tv production specalists on this forum. I can hear the bloodpressure cuffs popping every time someone starts a thread.

 

[sleepydoc]

...and remember that forms of communication that require you to hear a voice or see non-verbal cues don't really work in a text-only forum

 

[cap032]

The ones that get me are the ones who ask a question and then get pizzed and go on a rant if they dont get a quick response. Do they really think people are going to want to help them after doing such???? lol

 

[jcolley]

Although, I do admit I do enjoy the guilty pleasure of trolling the Tanked TV show threads. I never knew there were so many expert Biologists and tv production specalists on this forum. I can hear the bloodpressure cuffs popping every time someone starts a thread.

All Tanked threads should be booted straight to The Lounge for proper handling.

 

[Fizz71]

It's as simple as A-B-C ...

Anonymity Breeds Contempt.
(I need a t-shirt with this)

 

[Railcar79]

I look at the forums like I look at a tank. You got your Mandarins, gobbling up little bits of info, and displaying some very pretty info, you got the clowns, always entertaining, and you got the Damsels, this is my thread, it goes my way, or we will fight, and then there are the aggressive species only threads. Part of the fun of forums for me, figuring out what fish best fits the poster.