You are ridiculously lucky.
Or running fw!
I have enough (several) friends running Reeflo Darts and other Reeflo pumps without regular seal failures to know that I am not as lucky as you think. The internet always seems to skew statistics because people automatically turn to the forums when they have an issue. How often is that that we see threads like "My Reeflo Works Great!" or "My Iwaki Works Great"? Thousands of these pumps are sold annually and more often than not, the only time people speak up online are those who have issue.
That said, I've run Little Giants, Iwaki's, Silent One's, Eheims and almost every other pump you could think of. I know from experience over the last 25 plus years what to expect. I used to run several high flow Lim "Wave" pond pumps with modified salt water seals. I ran them for more than 15 years and was prepared to swap pumps when the seals started leaking every few years. It's one of those things that goes with the territory. I kept spare pumps so I could rebuild the seals at my leisure. They are very similar to the Reeflo pumps which are basically a modified upgraded Sequence pump. The Wave Pumps ran a Baldor motor like the Reeflo's.
These big Baldor type motors don't hold seals as well as a conventional pump like an Iwaki or Little Giant whose seals last indefinitely. Unlike a little giant or Iwaki whose motor is more compact and purpose built, the Baldor type motors use spans all kinds of applications of which pumps are only one. I can only assume that the run out on the motor shaft of these larger pumps is more sloppy than motor designed specifically for pump use. That or the shaft material is more porous or imperfect causing seals to wear out sooner. At the end of the day, I know from experience going into these pumps that having spare seals on hand is important. I bought seals when I bought my first Reeflo several years ago.
As I said, I also keep spare pumps on hand in addition to seals but that's simply because if I have a hardware issue, I want to be able to resolve it in 5 minutes or less. My pumps are plumbed with double union ball valves and my spares and plumbed with fittings and ready to drop into service. Unplug a pump, shut a pair of valves twist a couple unions and pull it out and drop the new one in it's place. The best thing about these pumps besides efficiency, noise level etc is that the only thing that really fails is a simple to replace cheap seal.
Bottom line is that these larger pumps will need seals more frequently but for the most part, they are pretty reliable. The motors are bulletproof and the pumps are insanely efficient as far as Watt's per GPH. They also don't transfer much heat which can save money on cooling and are VERY quiet. Are they perfect??? No but are they worth the occasional seal replacement which is really a simple DIY process?? I'd say so from my experience. Given what we seem to know from this thread about alternative seals, I'd say that should make seal replacement a bit more comforting for those who are really worried.