1) the current elbows have NO slots on the down facing pieces. The upturned elbow has a strainer on it. I had a goby that liked to go over the falls and was afraid he would die stuck against the elbow. Letting him take the ride to teh sump was much easier.
In either case, the gap under the elbow, or slots cut into the elbow should = AT LEAST the circular area of the elbow. I will leave the math to you
2) See answer #1... but PLEASE NOTE: Cutting slots like this in the TS or miter saw can be VERY VERY dangerous. Your eyes and fingers (teeth, whatever) are certainly going to be in harms way if you do not use the proper jig and protective equipment. If you attempt to hand hold the cuts, you will regret it! Loss of fingers is not hard to imagine. You have been warned!
3) Those photos are likely of the OLD durso style setup that was replaced by the current setup. All 3 standpipes had airlines at one point.
4) They should be just under the water level. (no more than an 1" I would guess) You can drill a hole (1/4" or so) in the side of the siphon standpipe to help it purge air. The hole would be just above the waterline.
5) Yes
6) Yes, but wider is better (coast-to-coast). To thin (front to back) and it will be hard to clean and setup (no room for elbows). Too deep and you lose tank space for no reason.
7) Silicone. Yes cut the glass a little short so you can move the shelf into place. Dry fit it and then remove it so that you can lay a bead of silicone to slide it back into. An alternative is to use a piece of hose on your silicone caulk to give you a directional nozzle. Silicone on both sides of the joint would be ideal. You don't want the overflow to leak tank water, otherwise during a power outage it will drain down to the level of the leak!