Pugmommie -
Have you attempted the simple modification of making your open drains into Durso style drains? I'm surprised nobody has suggested this. Not only will it quiet your drains but it will increase the capacity they can handle. I know for a fact that 1" drains will handle up to 800 GPH with a proper Durso, or any semi-siphon design, as I used to run that much flow through my 75g.
You need to find a fitting that will convert the top of your open drain pipe to a 1/2" female pipe the. Then get a 1/2" plastic ball valve. This valve is simply going to restrict the air flow into your drain. There is nothing magical about 1/2" size, it could be a little smaller or larger.
1. Turn your pump off.
2. Connect the ball valve to top of the stand pipe.
3. Close the ball valve completely
4. Have your hubby man the power switch to the pump and turn it on and stay put in case you need to turn the pump off to avoid a flood.
5. Let the flow get going and watch what happens, you should be pulling a full siphon so you'll get a surging/flushing action.
6. Start to slowly open the ball valve to allow air in and watch the flow for a few seconds after each adjustment. You should get to a point where the standpipe is handling the flow and you can stop adjusting.
Some people actually drill a small hole in a pipe cap, which you could do for testing if you have a cap handy, but I prefer the valve as it is easily adjustable and you'll be able to adjust it from time to time when salt creep starts to clog it. Eventually with the valve you'll have to pull it and clean it, same thing with drilling a hole just more often since a hole is not adjustable.