tbooher--
Where is the bulkhead in the tank--on the bottom or on the side of the tank?
Either way this idea will work, but it might be easier if the bulkhead is on the bottom.
Make my design then buy a 4" PVC endcap and use a hole saw to drill a hole in the end cap the diameter of the pipe. THe pipe that leads to the drain that is. Slide the endcap over the inner standpipe so that it is facing up--like a cup--to the point where the bottom of the cup come up to about 1/2" from the bottom edge of the coupling fitting. You might have to use a dremel tool to get the endcap to fit over the pipe--you want a snuggle fit. I would consider gluing the seal between the endcap and the pipe.
The endcap will act as an internal overflow box, so you will get the desired surface skimming.
Put the pipe back in place so that the top edge of the endcap is where you want the water level.
Does this make any sense? I know a picture is worth a thousand words, but I don't have one handy. I use this approach for my refugium. I have water drain in from the main tank to the refugium, then water exits through this type of overflow/standpipe to the sump. It has worked well for over two years now.
If you do a search on my posts, then you will find a picture because I have posted it.