I think it's pretty clear you don't want to tear down the tank and start over Michael, i wouldn't want to either. You can change out a significant amount of your DSB to freshen things up with very little filth or toxins being released by doing it the same way i did.
All you do is make yourself a cookie cutter for the sand bed. I used 4" dia acrylic tube with 1/8" thick walls. I cut a length 7" long so it was a couple of inches taller than the 5" DSB. Just push it into the DSB until it bottoms out and then use your siphon hose to remove everything within the walls of your cutter. You then just pour new sand back in the hole and pull out the sand cutter. Any kitchen container be it square or round etc will work after you cut the bottom off to make a hollow tube like cutter as long as it's high enough to extend a few inches above your existing DSB depth. The thinner but still rigid the walls of your cutter the easier it is to push through the sand so when your wife goes shopping make your move................

Turning the lights out on your pale acros won't starve them to death over 3-4 days mate, it would take a lot longer than that and anyway there's food in your water that you don't even know about that the polyps can still consume.
You can try swapping out as much of the DSB as you want over time and use your siphon on the spots that are too difficult to reach in a safe manner. Totally up to you which way you go but replacing the sand as i described is just as quick as slowly siphoning the sand as you've been doing and less likely to release toxins than your current method tbh. The bonus is you are sanitizing the area you're working on completely rather than sucking out a limited amount of filth with lots also going into the water. Do a couple of spots each week with your water change and the critters will quickly populate the new areas.
Let us know how you go with the cleanup mate and keep positive, things will only get better once you get on top of this nutrient issue :beer: