Just an update, I took apart for the fifth time and repressed my bearings to make are they were on all the way.
I also figured out the sequence for washers. The tank side should get a single washer. The rear side should go washer, spring, washer. Hooked back up and is quieter. Not silent like my tunze, but much better. My wife said, that's supposed to be quiet? So I will continue to have my controller turn it off during dinner hours. But it is half the noise level as prior to bearing fix.
Can these also be used for mp40qd dry side bearing?