yup - as i said in my PM - there really is no way to truly prepare. sure, you can buy the crib and setup the room... but in the end, some people have an easier time and others have a harder time (like we did). there's no way to know. it will be really different, that's for sure. anyone who says it's all just super great is full of &*^!. it's hard work. my point being that you've gotta enjoy life and if this hobby is a big source of joy, it's the last thing you wanna lose. i'm not a fan of the whole, "dream tank" or "last tank" mindset tho -- i think it raises pressure and expectations too much, which isn't the source of joy in the hobby. the joy is in those moments when you figure something out, or see something working, or growing, or even eating for the first time. there will be tons of hard work and stress involved in making it all work (just like the baby) -- but the joy will come in the little things and you've gotta make the most of that.