You can't control dimming via adjusting the power coming from the wall outlet (120 VAC) as with a rheostat dimmer you'd use for incandescent lights. For one thing, the drivers - buckpucks, mean wells, etc. - are designed to give a constant output regardless of the voltage supply they are running on.
The way you have to go if you want to control dimming is to use the dimming circuits these drivers have - NOT by adjusting the main power supply to them. These dimming circuits are meant to take some specified DC voltage range (0 - 10 or 0 - 5 for the mean wells or buckpucks respectively) or a PWM signal. So, if you went with any of the methods you're describing, you'd still have to translate to one of those formats. X-10, for instance, is just on/off. So it won't work. The vast majority of reef controllers are also just on/off, or variable DC for very specific purposes (driving Tunze pumps or the like). Only a few of the most high-end controllers out there now have this capability, and IMHO it's a pretty high price point for what you are getting.
I guess it boils down to being extremely specific about what you want. Do you really want to be able to dim up and down remotely via IR remote? Or, do you want to automate dimming up and down to simulate sunrise and sunset? etc.
IMHO, if you just want on and off, any of the cheaper reef controllers are fine, or just plug in appliance timers. If you want automated dimming or anything more complicated, it's probably either a very high-end controller or a DIY solution. I'm planning on running my nano's LEDs on timers until I can DIY a controller. I'm looking at arduino as a base for the controller - depending on which board you get, you can have 6 - 10 PWM outputs, so you could automate or manually control dimming through whatever interface you wanted.
Since LED is really the first reef lighting technology that takes really well to dimming, I guess it should be no surprise that none of our "infrastructure" (i.e. cheaper controllers) is ready for this sort of thing yet, despite the fact that it's pretty easy to do. . .