i'm having same issue as you. When i start it up, siphon doesn't start unless i open the ball valve more. When I finish adjusting the ball valve to get it where I want, its almost at a closed position. Are you doing this each time you restart your pump as well? Seems like a hassle.
Yes, and yes. You have to adjust the siphon each time the pump starts. Once done you shouldn't have to mess with it unless you have a power outage or stop the pump. In a power outage it will start back up but will likely not clear itself and you'll have a repeated surge in the overflow that utilizes the secondary 'till you can get to it and clear the siphon line. I have heard some have been able to get their siphon line to clear itself but mine never worked out that way. Since you're throttling it way down so it runs clear, IMO you'll have to fine tune that each startup. I put a mark on the ball valve with a sharpie pen so I can set it back in the same place. It hasn't changed in 3 years!
I put my ball vavle just below the overflow box (external) so it's easy to get to and see the water level in the box. In most installations they recommend the ball or gate valve just over the outlet at the sump. Here's what I have: